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“We cannot grow without curiosity”
Donna Jacobs is a seasoned psychologist for over 40 years who has worked extensively with both individuals and couples. Donna created the “Self-Integration Model” (SIM), which helps her clients as they work towards becoming their best selves. She believes that therapy, which can be difficult and painful, at its best is a process that balances creativity and excitement with insight and analysis.
Donna’s recent book, Becoming Your Best Self: Healing Through Self-Integration, presents her therapeutic Model, offering case studies and worksheets to help bring SIM to life.
THE INTERVIEW:
In this video, Donna and I discuss:
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Marriage
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Intimacy issues
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Affairs
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Porn
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
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Monogamy is hard because of the external stimulation in today’s society – there is so much temptation and people want instant gratification
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How you can build a new marriage after an affair. How do you gain trust back? – It takes YEARS – the partner who was involved has to be very patient for it to work
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Sex is an activity that takes on average takes 10 – 12 minutes. We all have time for this! We just have to take the time – and want to make the other person gratified
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Emotional intimacy is very challenging, and yet its the foundation of a healthy sexual relationship
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Sex has to be discussed between couples and you need to push yourself through the dry spell and commit – make it a priority the way you would make a date night or anything else
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What allows marriages to sink or swim? The ones that don’t make it, come to therapy too late – too much damage, non-communication
QUOTES TO FILL YOUR SOUL from Donna Jacobs:
“The purpose of life is successful relationships”
“When each person can know their family of origin triggers and wounds – they can show up without those walls blocking them from connection and love”
“Curiosity is the ingredient for good therapy – so we can grow”
How to learn more about the things mentioned in this episode:
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To learn more about Donna’s book called ‘“Becoming Your Best Self” CLICK HERE
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Donna’s Individual and Couples workshops – Sign up on her Website donnajacobs.ca
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Donna’s Facebook Page, Donna’s Twitter Account
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Recommended Books by Donna: The State of Affairs by Esther Perel , After the Affair by Janis A. Spring, The New Rules of Marriage by Terry Real, Erotica 5 Sexy Stories for Adults
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