Kathy Thomas, RTC - Parent Coach

Kathy Thomas, RTC is a trained and certified parent coach who offers effective ways to help parents develop cooperative and healthy relationships with their children. Kathy began coaching parents nearly 20 years ago to help parents deal with the turbulent times throughout the toddler to teen years. Recognizing the parent-child relationship as one of the most important and complex relationships in a parent’s life, Kathy brings hope and confidence to the many parents she has taught, helping parents get closer with the ones they love while keeping their sanity at the same time!

In this video, Kathy and I shed light on:

• CHOICE THEORY vs. Control

• Emotional Triggers- Children and PARENTS!

• Emotional Resilience

• How all Behaviour is for a REASON

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• We discuss a MAJOR theme – CHOICE THEORY. When children make decisions based on choices given, it can give the feeling that they are in control vs BEING controlled

• When a child always feels controlled, they have a hard time trusting themselves and making decisions later in life

• We discuss what kind of questions to ask your children to support this theory and allowing the child to come up with solutions

• When a child is triggered into emotion – most parents also get triggered!  The challenge lies in the fact that we cannot support them if we are in high emotion

• Acknowledging how our children’s emotions can trigger our own emotions - so that we can move ourselves from the emotional brain to our LOGICAL BRAIN.

• We cannot parent effectively if we are also in HIGH EMOTION. - THIS IS KEY!

• Fixing the emotion gives the child the message that it is NOT OK to express emotion. 

• As parents we need to get out of FIX IT MODE – THIS IS CHALLENGING FOR US ALL! We discuss some strategies on how to avoid this.

QUOTES TO FILL YOUR SOUL from Kathy:

“Our goal as parents is not to FIX – it is to allow the child to be heard, validated and then guide”

“You, as the parent set the environment - the parents' state of mind and behavior is what the child responds to”

 “There is only one person we can control and that is OURSELVES”

“The purpose of life is to love and be loved”

LEARN more about the things mentioned in this episode:

• To learn more about Kathy’s offerings CLICK HERE to visit her website  

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